Saturday, August 27, 2016

The Spiritual Problem with "Friends"

I say the following not as a cold, unfeeling outsider, but as someone with regret in my heart for my sins, especially the sins of keeping such bad friends, because I was not taught that these were sins, but learned through reading the Bible and seeing how bad friendships do corrupt a soul. So now I see that these are sins, and very miserable ones at that. Therefore, I say the following so that I might untangle your own hearts from this evil that you might avoid the pain of befriending sin, and in great thanksgiving to the immense Mercy of God for having freed me from the pain of knowing people who would destroy my life and soul, when I did not deserve such mercy, but it was purely a gift from God's most generous, loving, and merciful Heart:

St Maximillian Kolbe died in a concentration camp, and he said that in the future, Satan will control society more than it did in his time. No one can argue that the devil controlled a society that built concentration camps that systematically killed millions of Jews and Catholics (God's people). And yet, he controls the world even more today than in that time, as we hear from the prophecy of that great and wonderful Saint.

1 Corinthians 6: Do you not know that the unjust will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators nor idolaters nor adulterers nor boy prostitutes nor sodomites nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor robbers will inherit the Kingdom of God.
That is what some of you used to be; but now you have had yourselves washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.

A Christian knows and experiences that he or she can ask God for illumination of soul, ask Him to show them what their sins are. And a Christian knows that they then hand these sins over to God and beg Him ardently through prayer to take these sins from his or her life, and give him or her the strength not to commit these sins anymore, so that the punishment for sin might not overtake them even in this lifetime and cause a ruined life.  ( PrayersDivine Mercy Chaplet, and Rosary of Liberation are very, very powerful and also ones to start with; both include information about God's Mercy and how He's worked in people's lives )
Jesus to Faustina, about His Divine Mercy: "Let no soul fear to draw near to Me, even though its sins be as scarlet. My mercy is so great that no mind, be it of man or of angel, will be able to fathom it throughout all eternity. Everything that exists has come forth from the very depths of My most tender mercy. Every soul in its relation to Me will contemplate My love and mercy throughout eternity. The Feast of Mercy emerged from My very depths of tenderness. ... Mankind will not have peace until it turns to the Fount of My Mercy."
This is the process of salvation: asking God to show us our sins and hand them over to Him, asking Him to take them from us, to give us His grace, to guide us.

Anyone who has tried to overcome a vice on their own knows it is impossible: we always go back. For example, someone with a pornography/sexual (thinking sexual thoughts)/physical sexual addiction may try therapy and medication and other secular means, and it never goes away. But when she or he hands that addiction over to God, and prays very much for it to be lifted, and repents of it, which means, to tell God that they no longer want to have this vice, then God lifts it. And that is the only way that vices and addictions and problems like envy in the heart go away for real. There is no other way (atheists try, it never works). Only God can save the soul and the life, only God can heal a soul and someone's life, no one and nothing else can.

When people refuse to ask God for illumination about their sins and refuse to ask God for help with their sins, they remain in their sins. Then they are punished for their sins, even in this life, because when we sin, it opens the doors to Hell in our lives, and all manner of horrible things begin to happen in our lives, until we are worn down and dead inside. That is why so many people's lives are falling apart: they commit many great sins, and are united to people who do not seek God.

The crossing of the Red Sea in the Book of Exodus. The Ancient Egyptians thought they could escape God's Hands and keep sinning, and thought they knew better than God what was best to have in life, so fled from Him rather than to Him. But the Ancient Hebrews fled to God's Infinite Mercy and handed over their sins and bad situations to Him, asking Him to free them from their sins and bad situations in life, and asking Him to tell them His wisdom, what would make them truly happy, not the false happiness of the world. He rewarded their trust in His Goodness by using His Hands to save them and lead them, and His Hands to destroy the lives of the Ancient Egyptians who fled from Him.

You want to repent to God, seek God's ways, ask Him to help you, follow God's ways so that you pass on through life on stable ground, so you are firm in your relationship with God, no false idols, by seeking His Mercy for your sins and then stop committing those sins, like the ancient Hebrews on the top half of the picture. They are on dry land. You want your life to not be washed away in sin where you will be so abjectly miserable, but instead on firm ground with God.

You don't want your life to keep falling apart, feeling so miserable inside, where it feels like your life is drowning and dying, like the ancient Egyptians in the bottom half of the picture, because of your and others' sins, and depending on yourself and others and false idols (spending your thoughts on money, health, relationships, status, superficial happiness, appearances, etc.) instead of seeking a real relationship with God. 

Nowadays, friends, regular people, people you meet at college or at public school, are more "thought police" than they are friends—they are like an AA support group, only instead of helping you overcome alcoholism, they scrutinize and police your thoughts and actions, to keep you on par with the agenda of who is in power, which is an anti-Christian agenda. They are like a sin support group.

Even people who profess Christianity monitor thoughts and words that others say to keep these thoughts and words anti-Christian. Our own Pope does this, saying exactly the opposite of what God the Son said if it pleases the powers of the world. Bad Priests do this to not “offend” people so they will keep giving them money. “Good Catholics” do this, people who consider themselves to be “good” but not God to be good, because they reject God’s teaching, His Mercy and His Love, even when the agenda is so worldly and so far from what God’s Will is. Pope Francis talks about Divine Mercy, but he is a nihilist. Divine Mercy is not saying, “you can do whatever you want,” because that leads to ruin of life and corruption and eventual ruin of the immortal soul. When a person sins, his or her soul becomes corrupted and that person becomes evil because they do not have God, Who alone is Good, in their soul.

This is why I tell you, moreso than looking for shame curses from outside of your family, look for them within your family, look for how you yourself are cursing and discouraging those in your family, so that you yourself might hand over your sin to God and He might take it from you and give you the strength not the commit them anymore, so your sins do not overtake you and lead you to ruin and misery.

How are the parents cursing one another and cursing the children, how are the children cursing the parents. Allowing sin, isn’t that a curse? Having no sympathy for a fallen sinner, isn’t that a curse? Using manipulation to detach a person from sin, isn’t that a curse? Manipulation is a curse. It has no sincerity. It is not trusting in God. It is not praying. Sometimes you have to say things plainly, directly, but it should always be only with love, not with a sort of demonic triumph that “I am right and you are wrong and I’m going to make you feel how wrong you are.” That is not of God. And words without prayer, that is nothing. That is relying on your own strength, which over and over again in the Old Testament, God tells the Jews not to do, but to instead rely on God’s strength. Everyone needs to be praying in a family, and if they won’t pray, then you have to offer up many prayers and sacrifice and get many others to pray for that person as well. Many many saints had family members whose souls they were worried about.

But about these “friends,” because they have not awaken spiritually to God, they support an agenda that is against the soul. For example, they will say fornicating is ok and that it is those “stupid Christians” or “insane religious people” who say it is not, or that it is okay for people who do not believe in God because only the belief in God causes it to be dangerous or bad. That is the devil speaking out of their mouth, whether they are aware of it or not. Fornication, whether the person believes in any religion or is an atheist, causes a person to lose his or her soul. I have witnessed it. This leads to a complete corruption of life, relationships, and absolute misery.

Many people think, or tell others, that if you get married after fornicating, that it isn't fornicating. But the spiritual world doesn't work like that: the sin of fornication is still in the marriage, and it has opened a door to Hell and will eventually bring destruction. They have to completely stop fornicating before getting married, if they ever do get married, if that is even the right person for them. Otherwise, the ruin and destruction for the sin will still be upon them. That is why 80% of marriages end in divorce when the couple lives together for two years beforehand: they have permitted the sin of fornication in the relationship and it brings destruction, misery, and devastation with it. That is why there is so much divorce in the United States, because people fornicate instead of waiting to get married, and do not repent of this. It opens the door to Hell, which only wants our ultimate misery.

But, we can turn to God and pray ardently, and He will help us straighten out our lives and our relationships and our self-restraint. But, what good is trying to do all of this if you are befriending people who are working against all of the work God is doing in your soul? They will undo all of the graces that God has given you. And then you will be in a worse state than before.

And also, thinking about sex all of the time, or talking about it all the time, or using sex (immodesty) to manipulate one another or sell things, that too leads to tremendous misery in this life. It opens the door to having all sorts of very spiritually bad people in your life, who can not only ruin your life, but also lead you away from God and into Hell:
2 Timothy 3: Know also this, that, in the last days, shall come dangerous times. [2] Men shall be lovers of themselves, covetous, haughty, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, wicked, [3] Without affection, without peace, slanderers, incontinent, unmerciful, without kindness, [4] Traitors, stubborn, puffed up, and lovers of pleasures more than of God: [5] Having an appearance indeed of godliness, but denying the power thereof. Now these avoid. [6] For of these sort are they who creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, who are led away with divers desires: [7] Ever learning, and never attaining to the knowledge of the truth.
Even having desires that are against God, without committing the sin, can open you up to sin and permitting people into your life who will destroy you. Instead, offer these desires to God, ask Him to show you how they lead to misery and ask Him to take them from you, so that you will be not burdened with these desires anymore.

These people will bind your soul: "lead captive," that is, bound, enslaved to them; make you feel cursed. It mentions that this will happen to spiritually lost women from evil men, but the reverse is also true, as much of the Old Testament warns men about women who will destroy their lives. (The Old Testament was more androcentric in its language, even though the message applied to both men and women. Jesus, even through His apostles words after His resurrection, made it clearer to people that God cares about both the lives of men and women, even though this is apparent by the many powerful women heroes of the Old Testament who trusted in God and God glorified them in return. God wanted it to be very, very explicit that both men and women are capable of the same amounts of good or evil, depending on if they turn to God or reject Him. So it is clear that both men and women are equally responsible for turning to God for help, instead of to one another or depend on themselves.)

While I do recommend being kind to everyone, but simply not opening up to them or sharing with them or putting your trust in them, I do recommend greatly to avoid as much contact as possible anyone who blasphemes, that is, who takes God's name in vain.
Zachariah 5: And he said to me: This is the curse that goeth forth over the face of the earth: for every thief shall be judged as is there written: and every one that sweareth in like manner shall be judged by it. [4] I will bring it forth, saith the Lord of hosts: and it shall come to the house of the thief, and to the house of him that sweareth falsely by my name: and it shall remain in the midst of his house, and shall consume it, with the timber thereof, and the stones thereof.
You do not want to be considered apart of anyone's "house" if they blaspheme God's name because your life will be destroyed because of that person's sin. Your life will be rotted from the inside out.

And what is blaspheme? It is true, there are such apparent blasphemes. Taking God's Name in vain (there are only 10 commandments and one whole commandment is exclusively for honoring God's Name). But there is another, which is denying the power of God in one's life. This is not an unbeliever who has never seen God's grace or miracles in someone's life. It is someone, having heard of such things, or witnessed them directly, then rejecting God. And still another blasphemy, that is, those who consider themselves Godly or holy, but do not recognize that their holiness comes from God and not from their own merit, and so never pray or sacrifice for sinners or the salvation of the world, but instead beat the world down in its weakness.

I'm sure you have all seen people who consider themselves Christians but who go around condemning people. There is also Pope Francis, who spoke of marriage in such a way as to say that most who are married should not be, as if saying, God cannot lead a person's life, or help a person, and he was also an advocate of divorce, as if implying, if the people repent and turn to God, He cannot repair their marriages. Also, the Pope has said, that people do not need to seek God to go to Heaven, even though nothing in the Bible, or in the history of any religion, has said that. The atheists loved this message, but it is a message that condemns their souls even if it sounds, to someone who does not know better, "positive". It is a very negative message because it is a lie: you do need to seek a deeply personal, private, internal relationship God, and reject evil, not just do socially acceptable "nice" things, to go to Heaven.

Matthew 7:21: "Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven." and John 8:12: "I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness..." That means, you did not follow Jesus so that you might remain in your sins, but so that you could hand your sins over to Him in prayer and ask Him to take them from you, to be cleansed of them, so that the punishment that rightly falls onto people who do such things might not come upon you. This can only take place with a spiritual relationship with and trust in the power of God.

"And again I say to you: It is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of heaven. [25] And when they had heard this, the disciples wondered very much, saying: Who then can be saved? [26] And Jesus beholding, said to them: With men this is impossible: but with God all things are possible." By your own strength or desire or effort alone, you cannot make your life better: it requires a trust in God, handing over your life and problems to God. This can only take place with a spiritual relationship with God.

So, the Pope's message was very much a lie, which makes it very negative, even if it comes across as "positive", because it condemns people to ruin in this life as well as eternal ruin. Only with God is there not ruin.

Sometimes, God permits bad Popes, as history shows us, to prove to the world that His Church is the one true Church. Statistically, it is impossible for the Catholic Church to be around today if God's grace were not supporting it, because of all of the wars against the Church from the outside and because of all of the corruption on the inside. Internal corruption is the fall of every kingdom and organization and movement throughout all of history. Yet, the Church still exists, which is not possible, considering that, while it has produced many Saints because they followed the teaching of God, those in it who rejected God's teaching were the cause of much corruption.

He has also permitting a bad Pope to bring to light corruption in the Church, and to clearly give people the option of choosing good or evil, within the Church itself: they can choose to follow the people in the Church who are Catholic in name only because they reject the teaching of the Church (even though they still call themselves apart of it), or they can choose to follow the Saints and teaching of God and true teaching of the Church, which will lead to life. Pope Benedict is still alive and active, as the first and only Emeritus Pope. God is giving us the option of choosing to follow a lie or the truth, evil or good, ruin and destruction or life and joy, in a very unique way in this time in history.

Ecclesiasticus (Sirach) 15: God made man from the beginning, and [given him free will to choose]. [15] He added his commandments and precepts. [16] If thou wilt keep the commandments and perform acceptable fidelity for ever, they shall preserve thee. [17] He hath set water and fire before thee: stretch forth thy hand to which thou wilt. [18] Before man is life and death, good and evil, that which he shall choose shall be given him: [19] For the wisdom of God is great, and he is strong in power, seeing all men without ceasing. [20] The eyes of the Lord are towards them that fear him, and he knoweth all the work of man. [21] He hath commanded no man to do wickedly, and he hath given no man license to sin: [22] For he desireth not a multitude of faithless and unprofitable children.
Life means, to choose the way of God, which leads to eternal life, even if it involves martyrdom or material poverty, or sacrificing everything to take care of a weak or sick or mentally sick or sinful family member or friend, or even if it involves getting rid of "friends" who would lead you to spiritual death. And "death" means, gnawing, deadly emptiness without God in your life, and eternal ruin, even if it means you have everything contemporary worldly people consider to be "a full life," which are really, just distractions from God.
Deuteronomy 30: Consider that I have set before thee this day life and good, and on the other hand death and evil: [16] That thou mayst love the Lord thy God, and walk in his ways, and keep his commandments and ceremonies and judgments, and thou mayst live, and he may multiply thee, and bless thee in the land, which thou shalt go in to possess. [17] But if thy heart be turned away, so that thou wilt not hear, and being deceived with error thou adore strange gods, and serve them: [18] I foretell thee this day that thou shalt perish, and shalt remain but a short time in the land, to which thou shalt pass over the Jordan, and shalt go in to possess it. [19] I call heaven and earth to witness this day, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing. Choose therefore life, that both thou and thy seed may live: [20] And that thou mayst love the Lord thy God, and obey his voice, and adhere to him (for he is thy life, and the length of thy days,) that thou mayst dwell in the land, for which the Lord swore to thy fathers Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob that he would give it them.
What you have not seen, though, because it happens in private, are those faithful men and women who sacrifice their whole lives, who offer up many sacrifices and silent prayers, begging God to save souls, rather than condemn them verbally, out in the open. These who pray for others have chosen life. These beautiful people exist in monasteries and convents, monks and nuns, there are even holy priests who do this. And indeed, mothers and fathers, grandparents, and even neighbors, civilians, they exist. It happens in private, so that only God sees, and they never speak of their glorious sacrifices, because they trust in the Good God.
Matthew 6: Therefore when thou dost an almsdeed, sound not a trumpet before thee, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be honoured by men. Amen I say to you, they have received their reward. [3] But when thou dost alms, let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doth. [4] That thy alms may be in secret, and thy Father who seeth in secret will repay thee. And when ye pray, you shall not be as the hypocrites, that love to stand and pray in the synagogues and corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men: Amen I say to you, they have received their reward.
(Note: [1] Your justice: that is, works of justice; viz., fasting, prayer, and almsdeeds; which ought to be performed not out of ostentation, or a view to please men, but solely to please God.)
[6] But thou when thou shalt pray, enter into thy chamber, and having shut the door, pray to thy Father in secret: and thy Father who seeth in secret will repay thee.
1 Corinthians 2: "But, as it is written: That eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither hath it entered into the heart of man, what things God hath prepared for them that love him."
Luke 6: “Give to every one that asketh thee, and of him that taketh away thy goods, ask them not again. … Forgive, and you shall be forgiven. [38] Give, and it shall be given to you: good measure and pressed down and shaken together and running over shall they give into your bosom. For with the same measure that you shall mete withal, it shall be measured to you again.” 
There is no greater gift than the gift of sacrifice, which is the gift of hidden prayer, because you get nothing from it from people, although you gain everything from God, His whole Heart.

They who love God are few, but God so loves these souls because they love Him, and no one in the world can imagine what He gives them because they have loved. He blesses the whole world for these hidden souls.

They are the only truly happy people in the world. They are the only people who truly have peace and joy. They have more power than anyone in the world, any king or queen has ever had, and they are living Saints. They will reign in glory with God for all eternity.

They are the only people who are truly fulfilled and who truly are not lonely, even in the very depths of their souls, even if they have no or few friends, because God exists even in the innermost depths of their souls. I know this to be true, I have experienced this: I was so alone when I was popular with people but when they all ceased to be able to maintain any relationships because their souls corrupted so much from their sins, and so they fell away from my and everyone's lives, I was no longer grasping, no longer alone, and I saw that they had been the cause of so much loneliness, and interacting with them was just a distraction from a deeper loneliness that came from not depending on God completely, fully.

You, too, can become one of these souls, if you depend upon God's grace, if you rely on God, asking Him to transform you into a saint, asking Him to take from your all that keep you from the God that so loves you, and asking Him to give you all that He desires to place into your soul to bring you closer to Him.
Jesus to Faustina about souls, from Diary of Saint Faustina: "Oh, how I love those souls who have complete confidence in Me — I will do everything for them." And "Yes, I will be with you always, if you always remain a little child and fear nothing. As I was your beginning here, so I will also be your end. Do not rely on creatures, even in the smallest things, because this displeases Me. I want to be alone in your soul. I will give light and strength to your soul, and you will learn from My representative…”
(Remain a little child meaning, adopting the attitude of trust that very young children have towards their parents, only you having that trust towards God. Very, very young children ask their parents about everything, tell their parents about everything--good or bad, any thought on their mind, any good or bad thing that they've done. Their whole world is their parents, and they can't stand to have their parents from their sight. They depend completely on their parents, and are so relaxed and happy to be in their parents' arms, that they fall asleep, perfectly content. However, human parents are just that--human, and so have imperfection, sin, etc. Nonetheless, God gave tiny children this attitude towards their parents so that when the children grow up, they can learn to apply this attitude towards Him, He who is perfect in every way, and who promises that even should your mother forsake, abandon, or abuse you, He never will. A young child's attitude towards the parent is the attitude of trust that God wants you to have towards Him for your whole life, because He will always love you beyond the capacity of any human. The representatives you will learn from are Saints, reading the writings of Saints, reading the Bible and listening to Saints' instructions about it, listening to a holy priest in Confession. God speaks through these vessels and to obey them is to obey God. We must still rely on God to give us the grace of understanding, so we must pray for understanding in addition to listening and reading.)

Indeed, it is very very difficult to pray for a sinful world that refuses to hear God, because they are so cruelly ungrateful towards His Goodness... but we must because otherwise, it would offend the graces we have received.

And another form, that is, those who say that they pray, but think of God like a magic genie in a lamp, that they will rub and get wishes from, and so attempt to use God to serve their false idols, instead of sincerely seeking a relationship with Him. It is true, many a relationship with God has begun because someone had a very great need, and so sought God, but to continue on in a way that is only trying to use God or force Him to serve idols, that is... a dangerous person. If that person tries to use or take advantage of God, how will he or she treat you? If a person only goes to God when he or she needs something, God Who is infinitely perfect and loving, how will he or she treat you, who are flawed? It will be very bad, so avoid close relationships with these persons.

Another thing “friends" often recommend: getting drunk. It is socially very dangerous. There is a sort of new movement, a game of sorts to some people, that is spread online. The object of the “game” is to rape drunk men and women. Instructions for how to “play” are spread online. Unfortunately we live in a society that says you should go out and party and get drunk. It is an extremely popular “game” and is the reason that, in the army and at colleges, the incidents of rape are skyrocketing. This sort of “game" all has to do with getting drunk. (People are abused who aren’t drunk, but what is so popular is this raping drunk men and women.)

But getting drunk is also spiritually very dangerous. Being drunk is a mortal sin, it separates the soul from God until, through the power of Christ’s Passion and Resurrection, at full in the Sacrament of Reconciliation (confession), the soul is brought back to life. Being drunk also can lead to spiritual attachments and possession. Drug abuse, too.

And “friends” will say, you should get drunk, you should fornicate, here is some porn. Because they live in the world, far from God. The ideas of God are so far from them. And if you decline these things, they gossip about you and try to destroy you and may even become involved with the occult and curse you. This is incredibly common, but it is not spoken about in the West. I know, this happened to me.

Whenever someone opens the door to the devil in their lives or in their friendships, the friendship will always decay and die. Hell is death and isolation; God is union and joy. People think, "I will sin or tolerate these people’s sin and then we will be friends! Maybe they will even convert because they see how good a friend I am because of God!" But when people sin, they open the door to Hell, and let in all devils, both living humans who have turned themselves over to Hell and spiritual (demons). And these devils… they will only bring decay, ruin, isolation, and darkness with them. They will only ruin your life and endanger your soul. They blind the persons you wish to save so that they loath God. You will never, ever be able to befriend the devil, because he will destroy you, and people who have let the devil in their lives, they will bring you untold suffering that is not worth it and leads no where, nothing good comes of it, except to endanger your soul.

And so many “friends” encourage sin. Isn’t that what so much social media really is, when people are reporting on their personal lives on it? It becomes a place for this evil spiritual support group to pick over your most personal thoughts and events in your life and to monitor you. To make sure you are thinking the "right" things and doing the "right" things. To make sure you are staying quiet about things they don’t want to hear, that are against the sort of group think they are taught be secular society. That is why all of the social media is controlled by people and companies whose political agenda is strictly anti-God.

It is very, very much like Russia during the reign of the Soviets. Only instead of reporting you to the government to be killed, they report you to the devil to have your soul destroyed, which is much, much worse. I know, I have had my soul attacked and life destroyed many many times. This is why God says, be kind to your enemies, pray for your enemies, but He says, keep your enemies out of your house, out of your soul, out of your heart. Do not tell them personal things. Do not tell them facts about yourself. Do not tell them your thoughts and dreams. Tell them to God, not to your enemies, not to the devil and his people will destroy you, they will use this information as idols against you. And your enemies are those who have made the paths of God their enemy. Even if they are nice to you and accept you. 

They will destroy you if they lead you away from God, and their kindness and loyalty will evaporate as their souls corrupt from their own sin.

See, if they have not had a spiritual awakening, and a true conversion, and they have rejected God and so can never have this, then they decide, with no thought of the spiritual consequences of their actions, that they want to be your friend. No thought to spiritual consequences meaning, if they decide to gossip about you, or envy you, or destroy you, they do not consider that they can hand these evil intentions and desires of their's over to God and ask Him to remove them from their hearts, and in His Mercy, He will.

And so, because they do not examine their own souls for their sins, and do not hand their sins over to God, but instead think nothing of spiritual matters at all, they commit all kinds of sins against their "friends": gossip, leading them astray, not seeking God's will, insults, cruelty, discouragement, abandoning or selling you out when it is advantageous or profitable for them to, betrayal, even occultism. They do not take into account the fact that God punishes wicked actions even in this life, even if they see Him punishing these actions, because they attribute nothing to God, and so do not fear doing these actions; they think they will get away with them, even though it will not be so. Neither would you get away with these things if you did them, but they do not even consider that, either.

And because they only know sin, when they share things with you, they share their sin. Anything at all.

How is this so? Anything that we place greater value on than God, automatically becomes a false idol. So, if a person is not seeking God in any way, shape, or form, in his or her life, and thinks of God as only something that has to do with crisis or death, and not a daily way of life, or has rejected God completely, then... everything in his or her life is a false idol and brings or will bring misery, both to you and to that person. False idols always, always bring misery and ruin. Everything has to be ordered under God, thought of less than God, regarded less than God, and likewise, God above all things, thought of above all things, loved about all things and all people. If it is not this way, it causes intense pain and misery, not just eternally, not just because they (or you, if you fall into this category) lose their souls and Heaven forever, but even in this life.

I know, I was like this once, as well, everyone is before a conversion, but once you convert, you must stay with God, and stay focused on God, speaking to God rather than about Him, or you will end up in a worse state than before.

It is not that you must not be kind to these people, because in fact, these are all of the people in the world. But to open yourself up to these people, to share your life and thoughts with these people, that is going to only lead you to complete pain, misery, and a toppled over life.

And it is because they like you that they do these things to you, but it is not because they like you in a sincere way, because only when we love one another out of a love of God, are we truly able to love one another, and sacrifice for one another.

So they share their sin with you and this threatens your soul and ruins your life, and now, because you are friends, you are spiritually attached to a sinner and his or her punishment for sin also falls upon you, because you have thrown your lot in with this person, even though you didn't commit the sin. The sin is being joined spiritually through friendship with this person.

And sin opens the door to the devil, which attracts more bad friends, and spiritual evils. These spiritual evils eventually corrupt the "friendship" that you have with this person, because sin, Hell, demons, devils, all always lead to misery, corruption, destruction, disloyalty, false love, lies, and hatred. Always. Even if you are the best of friends, it will corrupt. And then you are suffering and in sorrow, and you have lost your soul, and even your life may be in danger, by this person who was once your friend and might now loath you because their sins have overtaken them and run rampant in his or her heart.

All because, that person rejected knowing God and only clung to knowing sin. Such a person is not capable of love, because God is Love, and they have expelled God for false idols of wealth, sex, drugs, alcohol, popularity, fame, "fitting in," status, etc.

The kingdom of God is the Kingdom of Love. The only way anyone will ever be able to have a true love for you is if he or she has many, many graces from God, from struggling with gaining those graces, so that he or she can sacrifice personal comfort or something for you. Likewise, the only way you can have true love for another person is after years of prayer and seeking the Will of God. Otherwise, it will all be tainted with hints of selfishness or worldliness, which is not love.

And such a person will leave you miserable and destroyed. It is the worst tragedy because, maybe, all you want is for that person to love God, but ... you can't join yourself in friendship with someone who has all these idols. You have to pray and sacrifice apart from them for them, get others to pray for them, and then try not to think about them, but put them in God's Hands.

I can't tell you how much I have witnessed this; because everyone I know, "Christian" or not, has rejected God's paths, and their sins always, always overtake them. And those they reject God's paths for, always, always abandon them, because there is no loyalty outside of God. And, in fact, God separated always my soul from these people, even if I did not want it, because they would have corrupted me, too. We must cooperate with God's saving grace and stay far, far from these people who have made God into their enemy. God never loses a battle, it is so stupid to have Him as an opponent, but they are so arrogant that they still did it anyway. And this is not a small group of people: this is everyone I have known.

Every. Single. Person.

The "regular," the "normal" people. The "sane" people, who are so truly insane by defying and hating the God, the only One, Who loves them and cares about them.

And many times, it is even within the own family, even devoid of any outside social interaction, but taking place in the house. Possessed parents who are involved in occult and new age, for example, or who promote many sins, and they ruthlessly and relentlessly attack a child who converts (this happened to me, and it was the devil, and we had to suffer very much and pray very much, not speak words but pray and suffer in silence, before this person was liberated). And “friends,” they are just as much. They might be miserable but they hate God so much that they refuse to hand over their misery to Him. And they become vessels of evil, to destroy your life and your soul.

Which is worse even than having your government kill you because it will cause you to be damned forever. That is why Kolbe warned about it being worse in the future. 

It was because of this sort of spiritual oppression that God led to the Jews away from the Egyptians. We are experiencing that in this times.

Pray the Rosary, which will so efficiently detach your heart from the world and attach it onto the Heavenly things that it was made for, so that you can experience true happiness with God. Trust in Mary and God to lead you away from the “Pharaohs” and “pagan Egyptians” in your life who will lead your soul away from God. You will only be happy and fulfilled with God, even in this world, and ruin will always overtake sinners. This is why I try so much to teach that you should gain knowledge of God through prayer and reading the works of Saints, so that ruin and a suffering that brings death (instead of a suffering that brings repentance) might not overtake you. I don't want you to be lonely and miserable and destroyed; I want you to be happy. This is why I teach that you should trust in God and know Him, asking Him for the grace to listen to Him. I know from so much bad experience, that only this will make you happy. 

And if you do not do it on behalf of my sorrow and my suffering and my regret, or to avoid your own pain and sorrow, than do it on behalf of my dead friends who would not listen to God, and so are suffering darkness and agony in a tormented Purgatory or eternal Hell right now. It is so sad and such a waste of God's abundant grace.

You won’t be lonely with God as your friend; but if you keep devils, even devil people, as your friends, you will be exceedingly lonely in this life and, if you lose your soul because you listen to them, you will be unspeakably lonely for all eternity. Befriend God. Honor the tears of the God who loves you so much:

"So Christ also did not glorify himself, that he might be made a high priest: but he that said unto him: Thou art my Son, this day have I begotten thee. [6] As he saith also in another place: Thou art a priest for ever, according to the order of Melchisedech. [7] Who in the days of his flesh, with a strong cry and tears, offering up prayers and supplications to him that was able to save him from death, was heard for his reverence.[8] And whereas indeed he was the Son of God, he learned obedience by the things which he suffered: [9] And being consummated, he became, to all that obey him, the cause of eternal salvation. [10] Called by God a high priest according to the order of Melchisedech."

Ask Mary to be your Moses, leading you to a happier place, a very good life; pray the Rosary, speak to your loving Mother with all your problems, that she may detach your heart from false idols; false idols that bring so much agony, misery, death, unhappiness: "For I brought thee up out of the land of Egypt, and delivered thee out of the house of slaves: and I sent before thy face Moses, and Aaron, and Mary.” 

Don’t befriend the people who keep false idols in their hearts or these people will destroy your life and your soul; rather, pray for them from a distance and be kind to them, loving them because you see that you yourself were once attached to false idols and it was only by God’s grace that you were freed from them; but do not let such people into your heart or friendship: "Beware thou never join in friendship with the inhabitants of that land, which may be thy ruin: [13] But destroy their altars, break their statues, and cut down their groves: [14]Adore not any strange god. The Lord his name is Jealous, he is a jealous God. [15] Make no covenant with the men of those countries lest, when they have committed fornication with their gods, and have adored their idols, some one call thee to eat of the things sacrificed. [16] Neither shalt thou take of their daughters a wife for thy son, lest after they themselves have committed fornication, they make thy sons also to commit fornication with their gods.[17] Thou shalt not make to thyself any molten gods."

I was taught to keep people who would damn me as my friends by this "soft Catholicism" that is spoken about by Mgsr. Charles Pope. The things that he is discussing are things that greatly effect the souls of the parishioners, and the priests just do not care. They so much try to come off as "nice guys," but they are cold to the bone inside because they block out God's Will and so throw their people to the wolves. They are not merciful by telling you to embrace evil: they're committing evil themselves because the evil they tell you to embrace will destroy your life in this life and destroy your soul in eternity. That is the exact opposite of what a priest should do.
"As I live, saith the Lord God, forasmuch as my flocks have been made a spoil, and my sheep are become a prey to all the beasts of the field, because there was no shepherd: for my shepherds did not seek after my flock, but the shepherds fed themselves, and fed not my flocks: [9]Therefore, ye shepherds, hear the word of the Lord: [10] Thus saith the Lord God: Behold I myself come upon the shepherds…”
So, pray for priests in general, pray for all religious, and pray that God lead you to a place with good priests. Leave a parish where the priest promotes sin or talks about worldly things, find a new parish. Pray a lot for these graces.